your vibe attracts your tribe - day 23

Surround yourself with people who are good for you, good to you and good for your soul.

We become like those we keep closest: There's an old saying that we become like those we choose to hold closest. Look around at your inner circle of friends and confidantes. Are they who you would like to become? Do you admire and respect them? If not, perhaps you should consider why you don’t and open your circle to new inspiration.

One of the best ways to find happiness is to find those who know how to create their own happiness, and share it freely. Spend time around these people and you’ll find yourself seeing the world differently because it is not only good for you mentally and emotionally but physically we thrive when we’re amongst people who ‘get' us.  Life expectancy is said to increase by up to six years when you feel you belong to a group where you are valued and appreciated - even if you have other unhealthy habits such as smoking or not taking exercise!

Today’s theme is the subject of the company you keep.   Have a look at your companions.  Are they drains or radiators? You know the drain - they suck your energy and leave you feeling in a low or negative frame of mind.  You often feel you want to step back from them when they’re talking.  Radiators raise your spirits.  They make you smile and you feel hopeful and positive around them. You have an instinct to touch or hug them so that you’re a part of their energy.

Your Vibe attracts your Tribe.  What are your essential qualities and your core values?  Do those around you share these qualities?  Can you be yourself or do you dim your light in order to fit in?  The most important rule in life in order to thrive is to be true to yourself and to be happy. Is this how you feel around your companions?

Identify the people in your life who are supportive, and positive and will celebrate your successes.  They are on your team.  Look at the people around you.  Write down their qualities and how each of them makes you feel.


Our tribe, team or circle may be much larger than you think and can be made up of the people around us who support us in many different ways.  We have people with whom we have a relationship and those who support our health and wellbeing.  Others are part of our personal development and still others are members of our wider community.  Here's a list of people who can make up your Dream Team or tribe (and is based on a normal level of socialising and not current restrictions).

• Hairdresser / Hair-stylist / Colourist
• Doctor
• Beauty Therapist
• Physiotherapist
• Aromatherapist / Acupuncturist  (or any complementary health therapist)
• Gym / Personal Trainer
• Yoga / Pilates Instructor
• Nutritionist
• Pharmacist
• Work colleague
• Friends (to laugh with/ to adventure with / to confide in - each may be a  different group)
• Family
• Teacher
• Mentor
• Role Model
• Favourite Cafe to hang out in alone
• Clubs (books/ swimming / chess / bridge / golf / walking etc.)
• Butcher (organic / local producer/ other  etc.)
• Grocery (as above)

This is just a suggested list but often once you start, you'll discover  others that come to mind.    It could be the local florist who is friendly and you love to chat to her about growing herbs or beautiful gardens.  Friends of friends can come to mind too - write them down, everyone has something to offer.

Look at your list of people and their qualities.  Answer the following questions.

Do you feel supported by them?
Do you find yourself weighing up your words around them or anxious to please them?
Are they interested in your plans and ambitions?
Do they help you see your strong points/ your good qualities?
Do they inspire you?
Are they drains or radiators?
Do they bring growth / connectedness / expansion to your world? 

Based on your answers, do you need to make changes?
Remember that what you choose to fill your screen, tv or tablet, is also a choice of company you keep.  Does watching the news or checking Facebook make you feel good, lower your mood or flood you with fear and negativity? 
In a tribe, sisterhood or team, as each member rises, all others rise with them. If you’re not feeling this, then it’s not your tribe.  
 I founded the Wise & Ageless Goddess tribe for women who see growing older as an opportunity to share their wisdom and embrace their unique gifts sharing them with the world rather than settling into the onset of decline and ageing. Everywhere I go I meet people who identify with this and this happy group is growing all the time.

Today of course we don’t need to meet in person to enjoy each other’s company.  There’s a large volume of motivational, enriching and positive support available through audiobooks, TED talks, YouTube, Podcasts, Soundcloud etc. where you can find groups of people with interests and the kind of thinking or philosophy that appeals to you. They don’t replace social groups or friendship but they do help sharpen and focus your thinking and mindset about how you want to feel in all areas of your life.

On that note my Living Magically Everyday members group will be available from 1/1/21. Announcement shortly. 

Wishing you a lovely evening in good company.

Trina X

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